Restoring vision, sanity and purpose in our lives and relationships
I understand you'd like something to change in your life. My passion is helping people create the most positive kind of change possible - which is to understand and accept yourself as you are. It is to live a more conscious and empowered life, fueled by purpose and enriched by positive elationships. This is the good life and I am here to help you find it.
I can help you shift your unconscious patterns and grow into a broader vision of who you are and what your life can be.
We may talk about the past, but the key is knowing what to do about it, and how to create a life you love.
Your life - authentic and empowered
At the beginning of our work together, my aim will be to help you feel better and solve the problems you are facing. I can help you navigate a crisis with more courage and clarity.
As we go forward, I will help you understand yourself better, explore what is meaningful to you and help you create the life you want.
When you feel supported and understood, you will feel more creative and able to do what you know is right for you.
Yes, at times we will talk about what happened in the past, but the key is knowing what to do about it, and how to create a life you love.
Talking about what's really going on
In social situtations, keeping things light and making small talk is a great skill! But sometimes we need a place to talk about what's really going on inside. We need to explore the undercurrents that may be creating some depression, anxiety or confusion in us.
Therapy is a process of learning to pay deeper attention to what is really important in our lives. On our own, it's so easy to go in circles, thinking and thinking. In therapy you get so much feedback and support that it moves your process forward - powerfully. You feel more connected and clear.
What hurts, calls for attention.
Paying attention is a loving response to pain. From attention, comes understanding - and then positive change. I'm here to help you pay closer attention to your inner life.
When we understand our thoughts, feelings and actions, we start to experience our innate sanity and well-being. New insights naturally bubble up, and healing happens. Our daily energy and attitude become more fresh and dynamic, full of optimism and courage rather than fear and doubt.
But to get to this place, there is inner work to do. To know who we are, where we are going and how to get there starts with exploring the more unconscious areas and blindspots in us.
You're not alone. I'm ready to help you make a shift.
Your struggle is a call to action. It's a call to take ownership of how you're living and the life you want to create. You don't have to figure it out on your own, or keep trying to talk with friends who aren't sure how to help or what to say.
Grieving the loss of a loved one?
Few understand it or know what to say. I can give you the space and deep listening you need to process your loss.
Feeling deeply sad for no apparent reason?
Friends might advise medication, but that's usually not enough. Let's explore the things that are difficult to talk about.
Anxious about your marriage or relationship, and fighting more often?
There's no need to keep suffering in silence, wondering when things will change. I can help you figure out two vital things: 1) What's true for you at this time, and 2) What's the truth about your relationship and what can you, or both of you, do about it.
To create change, there is nothing more powerful than receiving compassionate support and insightful feedback from an experienced guide. Someone who can deeply empathize with you, quickly see the whole picture, and help you plant the seeds of inner and outer change in your life.
The first step is a quick phone call. We will have a brief chat where I will ask some questions to explore how I may be able to help you.
About Dr. Michael Damian
Clinical Psychologist - NJ License #6612
Being a psychologist is a calling for me. I enjoy listening, connecting the not-so-obvious dots, and supporting people. It's a field that includes philosophy, science, literature and spirituality within it, all with the aim of understanding the human condition and uplifting people's lives.
I think most of our lives are fairly ordinary, and yet also hold extraordinary moments, great love and unexplored depths. These days in therapy, I really enjoy the dance between the practical, ordinary aspects of life and the deeper aspects of the soul and unconscious. It's all beautiful and it all matters!
Throughout my life I've been an explorer of the inner life and the outer world. I have lived in the Netherlands, where my grandfather came from, and I usually travel there once a year to teach seminars, practice speaking Dutch and enjoy the culture.
As a Connecticut native, I graduated from the University of Connecticut with a BA in Political Science summa cum laude, in 1997. During college I interned at the Atlantic Council (a foreign policy thinktank in Washington DC). Later, I lived in London, worked as an editor for National Geographic, and then went on to earn my Ph.D. in Clinical Psychology in 2009, from Sofia University in California.
My doctoral training was broad and rigorous. I counseled parents, teens, couples and families at the Community Health Awareness Council in Mountain View, California, and also counseled youth as an elementary-school and high-school psychologist. During my post-doctoral training, I conducted intensive therapy and personality testing for adult clients (including Franciscan monks) at the Stillpoint Center in San Francisco.
I am grateful to have had several fantastic mentors and supervisors in the field, who taught me the heart and soul, the art and science of therapy.
Although the world is full of suffering, it is also full of the overcoming of it.
- Hellen Keller
The main idea that motivated me to become a psychologist is that we are all drawn, consciously or unconsciously, to bring forth our most authentic and higher self during our lifetime.
When I think about the pains we often carry from our childhood, so much of it comes from the sense of being stuck in old conflicts and patterns we didn't choose. The human experience seems to come with not feeling deeply understood and stumbling into a life that is not truly one's own.
I enjoy helping people emerge out of that fog and into the living daylight of self-knowledge and healthier relationships.
My approach is based in the life-affirming, humanistic tradition of therapy, with a strong focus on Jungian psychology. I also teach mindfulness meditation and cognitive-behavioral techniques that are highly effective for reducing emotional distress.
A major theme of my work is helping clients find stillness, observe the mind and live from the higher, conscious self within. Since 2014 I have led seminars on meditation and spiritual development. In my 2017 book, The Art of Freedom: A Guide to Awakening, I described my own journey of psychological and spiritual growth. The book explores the perennial themes of meditation, self-love, conscious relationships, and the life-changing shift of consciousness I experienced in 2006.
My experience has shown me that our greatest growth and happiness comes from high quality relationships. We also benefit tremendously from finding the right mentors and coaches for our unique stage of life.
If you're in need of experienced guidance and support at this time, I will be happy to speak with you.
The privilege of a lifetime is to become who you truly are.
- Carl Jung
We have an inner life and an outer life. The inner life is mainly concerned with developing awareness, love and wisdom. These qualities integrate the psyche, improve our relationships and allow our most authentic self to express its gifts in the world.
Whether you are a more introverted or extraverted person, in your 20s or 60s, I am here to help you unlock the treasure of your true self so that you can live your best life.
The main way I do this is by listening. When you are deeply listened to, you will learn to really hear yourself, to know what is true for you and what to do about it. This is true empowerment.
If you're ready to be heard, please get in touch today.